Is having a lower sex drive a problem? What we were never told

In a world where it seems that ‘more sex’ is always better, on Planeta V with Laura Cámara and Sonia Encinas we debunk myths and speak plainly: having less desire isn’t a problem.

In this episode, presented by Tania Llasera, we analyse how social pressure, criticism from partners and false expectations are stifling our sexuality and disconnecting us from our own pleasure.

Criticism: the enemy of desire

One of the key ideas in this episode is that reproach is anti-libido. The pressure many women feel—whether from their partner or self-imposed by society—creates an emotional burden that stifles desire rather than fuelling it.

We aren’t always obliged to feel in the mood. We don’t always have to perform. Sexuality shouldn’t be experienced as an obligation or as a measure of our worth as a partner.

Does having less sexual desire cause problems?

Often it does, but not because there is anything wrong with us. The real problem arises when there is pressure, anxiety or reproach from a partner within the relationship.
Desire needs freedom, space and mutual understanding, not demands or blame.

As the experts explain, it’s not about how much sex you have, but about the quality of your relationship with yourself and with your partner.

Sex isn’t a competition

Another of the major myths we debunk in this episode is the idea that ‘more sex is better’.
Having sex more frequently doesn’t automatically make you happier or healthier.
Sex is just another pleasure, not another obligation on your daily to-do list. And every couple finds their own rhythm, without external rules.

Arousal, desire and changes throughout life

Did you know that arousal isn’t the same as desire? Desire can vary throughout the life cycle, depending on your age, stress levels or the emotional stage you’re at. And that’s completely normal. There’s no ‘must’ when it comes to sexual desire, nor does it have an expiry date.

Learning to recognise these changes, communicate them and respect them is essential for building a healthy sex life, both individually and as a couple.

What’s more, if you want to give your desire an extra boost, there are solutions that can help you rekindle the flame. One of them is Ginesens Lube, our warming lubricant, designed to enhance feelings of pleasure and foster intimate connection.

Self-care and masturbation: keys to connecting with yourself

We also discuss the importance of having a sex life of your own. Masturbation, genital self-care and getting to know your own body are essential tools for keeping your erotic connection alive, whether you’re in a relationship or not.

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